Though the Word of God says – “Be Slow to Anger” we all fail to practice this in our daily life. Most of us, though we are believers in Christ, we still fail to keep anger under control. many times we have regretted about being angry to our dear and near ones but we still continue to be angry at times. Anyway this article might help you a bit to understand this issue better and deal with it.
In the above verse, Apostle James gives a very sound advice for all of us and it has three key points:
1. Be Quick to Listen
2. Slow to speak
3. Slow to become angry.
As you know many relationships have been destroyed, many Christian families have been torn apart just because – people were slow to listen and quick to speak.
Many unintended hurts have been caused just because of our inability to control our emotions and words.
1. Be Quick to Listen.
Saints, being a good listener is vital for building good relationships. Sometimes, the main reason why people are not willing to listen to you or talk to you is, because you are not willing to listen to them.
In fact, people do not wish to hang out with those who are not willing to listen to them. A good listener always has many friends.
Being quick to listen has many advantages:
1.It helps you avoid misunderstandings
2.It shows that you really care about the person that you are listening to.
3.It helps you prepare well to give the right answer or offer the ideal solutions.
4.It shows that you really respect the person who is talking to you.
5.It helps you to learn more from others.
2. Slow to Speak.
Being slow to speak is also important for building good relationships. Many times, arguments and disagreements arise in families due to our inability to control our tongue.
Many of us are very quick to speak, and we speak without thinking about the consequences of our words. Often the hurts caused by words linger in our mind a lot longer than we expect.
Many marriages have been destroyed just because of hurts caused by words from their spouses. As, believers in Christ, if we could control our tongues; our homes will be a better place to live in.
See what the following verse says controlling our tongues:
Yes, he who guards his mouth, Guards his life. As you know, many times, lives have been destroyed because people could not keep their mouth shut. So, it is of paramount importance for Christians to keep their tongues under control.
Saints, please remember what Lord Jesus did when the Jewish crowd brought the woman who was caught in adultery.
It was a very tense situation, the people were demanding an immediate answer from Jesus, but he kept silent for some time. As you know, He was slow to speak, but He did speak and when He spoke, His answer silenced the angry crowd.
Likewise, we too should be slow to speak no matter how tense the situation might be.
3. Slow to Become Angry
Anger is something that most of us are prone to; however, at times it can be very destructive. Many wonderful Christian marriages and friendships have been ruined because of anger; because people could not control their temper.
Apostle James figured this out very well, that is why he advises us in his letter to be slow to anger. I think, many of you might have personally experienced the destructive power of anger in your own lives. The Bible says:
Anger, no matter for what reason, is destructive. It does not help you achieve anything good; but on the contrary, it destroys the emotional and physical health of both the parties. Therefore, controlling your temper is very important for leading a healthy Christian life.